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I f it weren’t for online dating, most of my generation would be single. Tinder, OKCupid, Slew of Fish are all standard apps you’d expect to see on a single person’s smartphone. Subscriptions to dating sites are no longer taboo. Now, having your own ‘oh, wij met on the internet’ story is just spil romantic spil meeting IRL (te existente life). And perhaps, ter , the same goes for much of mature dating too, with sites such spil Ourtime, eHarmony and our own Telegraph Dating proving a succesnummer with older daters.
But online dating is still a relatively fresh terrain for many. It means that newcomers are often unaware of some glaring pitfalls.
Only this week, an Arizona man wasgoed arrested for scamming women out of thousands of dollars after posing spil a stockbroker online, and last week Westelijk Sussex County Council released a warning to residents about scams online te the UK. Tho’ online dating can be a safe and regulated environment if used with care, there are still numerous cases of scamming and catfishing that make the news on a regular onderstel.
This fraud is becoming more and more common. And there are ways wij can all be tricked – even those who think they’re clued up about online dating. My friends tell stories of guys who ended up already having girlfriends, and – the most common – those who promise relationships, but leave after just one night.
S o what are the signs you should look out for? Here are some clues to help you avoid online dating trickery. If the dude you like is guilty of any of thesis, they’re most likely not to be trusted.
1) He calls you ‘baby’
If you meet someone online and within a few messages they’re telling you how much you mean to them, and how they love you to kattig: stay away. This is not a modern day version of love at very first look (of your profile pic) – it’s a sign that they’re a bit of a creep.
You might be thinking that there’s a chance you have a auténtico connection. But if that’s truly the case, it won’t be because of their fake flattery and hyperbole. Te elementary terms, when they commence telling, “Since you came into my life kind, I have looked forward to each sunshine” – spil the fake ‘James Richards’ did – you should think again.
Two) His profile pic looks a lotsbestemming like Lijm Harington
T his is not a miracle – you have not found a junior, auténtico version of Jon Snow from Spel of Thrones. Instead, the person you’re messaging has just stolen a picture off the internet of the most ‘normal’ looking celeb he could find.
I f you’re te doubt, save the picture onto your pc and then haul it into Google. You can do an photo search for it. And if he truly does look like Harington? Nothing will come up folder his Facebook pagina.
Three) He says he earns overheen ?1m a year
Most dating sites have columns where you pack te your basic details and there is an option to waterput down your salary. Personally, I don’t trust anyone who fills this te at all. But you truly need to be worried when someone says they earn overheen a million a year. Especially if they then don’t suggest any more informatie on what they do.
Sadly, they’re very likely not a millionaire. If they were, they’d be doing anything to attempt and avoid strangers taking advantage of their wealth, or being judged because of it. They would not likely be holding a metaphorical sign telling ‘come and date mij for my dollar’.
Oh, and if he everzwijn asks you for money – say ?170,000? Report him to the webstek.
Four) He’s posing with a tiger
T his is so common that it even sparked a Tumblr dedicated to ‘Tigers of Tinder’. The militar idea is that wij chicks dig travel and danger. So if a man wants to attract a woman, all he has to do is demonstrate that te his profile pic, right? And what better way to do it than with a tiger?
I t does suggest that he’s attempting to overcompensate. Why does he have to go to such (extreme) lengths to attempt to attract women? And doesn’t he know he’s part of a trend that everyone is laughing at?
Five) He’s taking stripped to the waist selfies
Anyone who uses a picture of their naked pecs to advertise themselves spil a potential mate is, ter my book, not to be trusted – especially if it’s taken spil a mirror selfie with the flash covering up their face. They might be hoping you’ll be so dispelled by their six pack you won’t notice.
Also, if he’s ready to postbode a half naked picture te the public domain – just imagine what you might be sent ter private.
6) He can’t spell
This is not just mij being a pedante. Spil much spil it irritates mij if someone gets ‘your’ and ‘you’re’ wrong, it’s not the end of the world. What is, however, is if every single word they use is spelt incorrectly.
Ter this day and age wij all have autocorrect on our phones, tablets and laptops. So why don’t they? Why toevluchthaven’t they bothered to use it? What’s wrong with them?!
Just look at ‘James Richards” spelling and grammar: ",The early mourning with you ter my arms, the midnight skies with us underneath a billion starlets, moves mij.",
I f that doesn’t say it all, I don’t know what does.
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