Introduction to This Article
Facebook. ahhhh, what a joy, right? I am so fortunate to for Facebook because it has permitted mij to rekindle with friends from High Schoolgebouw and even Grade Schoolgebouw. Te addition I have made a TON of business connections.
I determined to write this article after an “incident” took place last night via Facebook that involved drinking.
Here’s what happened:
It’s around 11pm and I’m laying ter bloemperk when my phone goes off – it’s a Facebook message from a masculine friend I had just re-found and hadn’t talked to since I wasgoed a tiener, yet wij had a good friendship and simply lost communication overheen the years.
The message wasgoed pretty “graphic” te it’s content. I could tell based on the misspellings that my old friend wasgoed toasted.
I replied asking if my friend wasgoed ok and wasgoed at huis or needed mij to find him a rail.
He responded stating he wasgoed at huis then continued on with the same, obnoxious content.
I waterput my phone on “Silent” mode and went back to sleep. When I awoke I had an inbox total of more drunken messages. Thank Maker I waterput my phone on “Silent” because he would have kept mij up till 3am with his drunkenness.
Anyway, I got up at 7:30am and got ready for work. A few hours zometeen I get another message – a lengthy apology from this individual.
Truthfully, I wasn’t even upset ter the very first place, I wasgoed more “worried” than anything. The sexual content of the messages wasgoed obnoxious, but I know that this person would never, everzwijn have acted like that if sober (or even moderately intoxicated).
So, here’s a few pointers from someone who has bot on both sides of the fence:
Evaluate How Bad the ",Harm", Is
Providing you can recall what you did by re-reading messages, posts, emails, texts, etc, evaluate how “bad” the harm is. While evaluating “harm”, consider the following:
1. Were you at a party where everyone wasgoed drinking? If so, you may have a case of “drinkers regret”, yet everyone else wasgoed drinking too, so your deeds could be “all ter your head”. Nobody very likely remembers your “bad dancing” besides you. If you’re embarrassed that you spilled a drink or got ill. merienda again, EVERYONE wasgoed drinking.
Two. If you were “confrontational” with someone, is this person aware you were drinking? If so, providing you didn’t kill their dog or throw their couch into their pool, all that’s likely required is an apology. Its NOT the end of the world. I have even gotten into all-out physical brawls with my best friends while drinking and all of us are still friends. Ter one case, I refused to let my friend drive when he wasgoed tipsy and I tackled him. While attempting to “detain him” on the floor and eliminate his car keys, I ended up tearing open his neck with my finger plows. Wij both felt horrible about it the next day, but he wasgoed grateful I did not let him drive and I wasgoed appreciative he wasgoed safe.
Three. EVERYONE HAS “Bot THERE”. I ensure you are NOT the very first person to feel like an idiot overheen your deeds. EVERYONE (besides maybe Mother Theresa) has bot intoxicated and done something (or lots of things) that they feel ashamed of. EVERYONE. And anyone who won’t admit to having at least ONE activity they regretted is a envolver.
So, with all that te mind, let’s do “Harm Control”.
I Sent Awful Drunken Texts / Photos
If you’re feeling bad overheen Texts or Photos, who did you send them to? If it is someone who loves you, an apology should be fine. Even if what you sent wasgoed truly, truly mean or graphic. Just explain you gedistilleerd more than you should and the messages you sent are not how you feel. If you have to admit to being so toasted you don’t even Recall sending the messages, then DO SO! There’s nothing “wrong” with telling the truth. I would much rather have a good friend who sent mij an explicit message admit that they were “blacked out” than simply telling they were drinking because there’s a big difference. If someone is “blacked out” and has no recollection of the message(s), then I know they were not ter control of their deeds at that time. On the other mitt, if someone just says they were “drinking”, I have to wonder if the message(s) reflect their Verdadero feelings and they have bot acting “fake” towards mij.
I Got a DUI / Buzzed Driving / Jailed
Yeah, it truly gargles. I got a DUI sometime around 2002 and it wasgoed indeed embarrassing and horrible. But I got through it. You’ll owe some fines, have some Community Service and you may have to tell your employer, friends or family.
One thing you can do is go to court and ask the judge to grant lenience for you to drive to-and-from work (or wherever you absolutely Voorwaarde go). It indeed helps if you can showcase evidence that you are a excellent person who made a thick mistake. Get your friends / employer / family to write letters or emerge ter court with you to “stand up” on your behalf and vouch for you being AN ASSET to the community, despite your bad judgement at the time of the hechtenis.
The bottom line here is, you just have to get through it. and YOU WILL. Stay strong.
VOTE TO HELP OTHERS!
HAVE YOU GOTTEN ARRESTED BEFORE?
I Cheated / Had An Affair
This is most likely the worst offense of drinking, but merienda again, evaluate the situation. Wasgoed the “cheating” a smooch or wasgoed it much more?
Chances are, you are most likely reading this with your pounding headache from last night, very first things very first: before you do ANYTHING you need to be clear-headed, so sleep-it-off or do whatever is needed to recover so you can think things through.
Next: Do you genuinely KNOW how “far” things went? For example, my gf merienda woke up next to someone, but had no idea what happened the previous evening. It’s slew possible both people fell asleep. If you woke up fully clothed, the chances are likely te your crédito that you simply “passed out”.
If you know you went “all the way” you voorwaarde consider all of the following:
A.) Is it possible you could be pregnant? If so, instantaneously go and purchase a Project B pill from your restringido drug store. DO NOT WASTE TIME. Providing you are sober enough to drive, go right away.
B.) Could you have an STD? If so, cease having further relations until you know.
C.) Moving forward with your “positivo” relationship: should you admit to what happened? This is up to you and the state of your relationship. If you are fully pathetic, then instead of demolishing the individual with the news of your affair instead end your relationship and spare them the agony.
If your cheating wasgoed a plain smooch, it is most likely that your playmate will be able to forgive you, but you may have to re-earn their trust. None-the-less, if you project to share the details of the affair with your playmate, be ready for everything that goes along with it – rage, depression, etc. So before you leap into details, very first recover from your hangover.